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Chapter 10: Perkins' Goal Achievement Program

Robert

Robert lost his two little girls. His ex-wife took them to a state across the country. She enrolled them in school and cut them off from their Dad. She was bitter after a divorce and wanted to punish Robert by making it impossible for him to see his precious children. Robert was losing sleep and needed self-hypnosis to help get some rest.

He decided to create and participate in a Success Support Group that was started by a church nearby. Here, he could ask for some moral support in achieving his goal of getting the court system to award him custody of his children. He met with 4 other people. After telling them this story, Robert asked that each of the four people hold in their thoughts the Court rule what was best for his two little girls. For three weeks of meeting with his newly found Success Support Group, Robert asked for this help and support in this challenge.

One week later the Court ordered his ex-wife to allow joint custody involving the return of the little girls to their Dad for two weeks. At the time this book was written, it looked very favorable that Robert would get full custody of the children as their Mother said she was not interested in raising them.

Objectives of Chapter 10

During this lesson you will learn how to create and participate in a success support group and achieve positive results just like Robert. You will learn the importance of becoming a "mentor," and then learn how to integrate those techniques through your self-hypnosis program.

Let's begin!

Create And Participate In A Success Support Group

What is a success support group? A success support group is a group of two or more people, dedicated in helping each other achieve goals. Usually 3 to 5 people work really well together. The purpose of the group is to support each other emotionally, while striving for success. This group may begin as a group of friends, or a group of complete strangers.

I prefer strangers. Have you ever noticed how you may relate to a complete stranger better than a family member or friend? I personally believe that sometimes we have other competitive issues with relatives and friends that we don't have with complete strangers. Your success will not make them feel jealous. In fact, they may feel by supporting you they helped create your success. With a stranger, there is no reward for them if you achieve. There is also no reward for them if you fail.

Here is how the Success Support Group works. You find through your church, place of work or another social setting 3 or 4 people whom would like to improve and achieve their personal goals much quicker. Other support group recruits may be found through Internet Chat or special interest Web Boards. One of the most successful success support groups I know of has been going on for almost 20 years. This group rarely sees each other face to face. They hold meetings via long distance telephone conference calls. Some Internet sites will allow you to hold your success support group for free via their Internet chat and Web board features. You will find some great ones listed in the appendix of this book. The Internet resources work well, especially for long distance, out of state, or out of the country support groups.

Once you have identified your group, find a time and a place that is convenient for your group to meet each week. I personally find that a once a week meeting keeps issues fresh and still gives enough time to work and complete short-term goals. Long-term goals can be accomplished by working on several related, short-term goals.

The meeting starts off with one person reading off the goals that they have for the coming week. They may include long term goals that they are working on as well. Usually long-term goals have many steps that can be monitored along the way at a forum like this one. After the first person has finished reading his goals, another member of the group will repeat back the first goal to him and express how he/she believes the goal achiever will reach that objective this week. An important feature of the Success Support Group is the fact that as a supporter, you do not try to offer unsolicited advice to solve the problem for the goal achiever. You do not want to diffuse the issue or take power away from the person seeking support. Let the person state the problem and then give unconditional support. If the person really wants you to help directly, they will ask you for it.

The Success Support Group dialog will go something like this. Even though in real life each person will have four or five goals to address. I will give you an example of the group dialog, limiting each member to just one objective.

Support Member #1

Support Group Member #1: "My goal this week is to exercise 3 times."

Support Group Member #2: " I see you having all the motivation you need to complete exercise 3 times this week."

Support Group Member #3: "Member #1, I envision you exercising, getting your heart rate up and feeling good about the process." "You will feel a sense of achievement and accomplishment."

Support Group Member #4: " I too am excited about the fact that you wish to exercise three times this week." "You will feel so much better when you come back here next week and tell us about your completion of the exercises."

Support Member #2

Support Group Member #2: "My goal is to look for a new job." "I want a job that will pay me what I feel I'm worth." "I want a job that will give me a great deal of personal satisfaction."

Support Member #1: "I think that it is great that you are trying to better yourself." "It shows you have a great deal of self-confidence and self-love." "I see you getting solid interviews this week."

Support Group Member #3: "I envision you rapidly getting into the career of your dreams." "People want to offer you an exciting job that will carry a great deal of personal satisfaction along with a great deal of money."

Support Group Member #4: "I have to agree with the others." "All this week I am going to envision you getting the proper direction and motivation to find your new career with exciting challenges that will bring you money and satisfaction."

Once everyone has given their goals to the group and in turn, received verbal reaffirming of the expectation to achieve, the group is finished for the week. After a while, you may relate more and more very personal goals to the group and they will feel comfortable relating their innermost goals to you. Some of the goals that you may discuss will be concerning health, money, career, education, family and relationships. You can work on short-term goals and long-term goals at the same time.

This is a great way to achieve success. Working with new people, who have no reason to question your abilities or feel jealous about your success, is a great way to explore new goals and to forge ahead, toward successful completion of you current goals. It is a real confidence booster to look in strangers' eyes and see them on fire with enthusiasm. They are reflecting the enthusiasm in your eyes.

Nothing in life is more powerful than that.

I have participated in several Success Support Groups over the years and have started several others. I wish you could see how these groups become so important in the lives of the participants. The Success Support Group becomes one of the most important and satisfying parts of the goal achiever's life.

I hope it becomes an important part of your life.

Mr. Heffron

The year I was graduating from high school, I had an urge to learn a musical instrument. At the time, several entertainers were recording hit songs using brass instruments. I wanted to play Trumpet just like Al Hirt from New Orleans. My younger sister, who was going to Algonquin Junior High School in Algonquin, Illinois, said she had a great band instructor who offers private lessons. His primary instrument in College was the Trumpet. He put himself through school playing in Jazz Bands and Wedding Bands. His name was Mr. Heffron.

I gave Mr. Heffron a call.

Unlike many of the teachers I had in high school, this man was very dedicated.

Many of my other teachers were not. For example: I had one teacher that couldn't give me help because he was a football coach and couldn't help me during the fall football season. When the spring school semester started, the same teacher couldn't help me because he was moonlighting, selling insurance policies to students.

Mr. Heffron was different. He was young and enthusiastic about music and enthusiastic about teaching it to others. He drove twenty miles out of this way to my home to deliver my lesson. He only charged me $2.00, which barely covered the gas of his 1964 Corvair. He also gave me reams of his favorite sheet music for free. This was music he loved and wanted to share with the world.

He became my Mentor.

I ended up quitting my lessons after about nine months. I got drafted into the Army, and went overseas. I lost track of Mr. Heffron. When I was discharged from the Army, two years later, I found out that Mr. Heffron was the Band Director for Dundee High School in Carpentersville, Illinois. This was the very school that I graduated from three years earlier! He created the Dundee Scots Marching Band. The Dundee Scots were a competition high school band that dressed in kilts and played traditional instruments along with bagpipes.

They were sensational!

The Dundee Scots were invited to parades all over the United States and competed and won many competitions across the country. Mr. Heffron's teaching style and leadership ability created exciting groups of motivated students and chaperones, to guide the students to successful and rewarding lives. He became a mentor for many students.

I graduated with a degree in Business Education from Northern Illinois University and taught three years at Elgin High School in Elgin, Illinois. I have taught people how to hypnotize themselves and how to hypnotize others for over 20 years. Many of my students learned how to reduce stress and pain in their lives. Many of these people learned how to achieve many exciting goals, just like yours.

Fill out the registration form located in the appendix of this book. Send it to me, and receive your certificate for a free, self-hypnosis workshop. After the free workshop, don't thank me. Thank the memory of my Mentor...Mr. Heffron.

Step 5: Become A Mentor

Are you a mentor? Is there someone in your life that looks up to you? Has there ever been a younger brother or sister, or friend that thought of you as the most important person on the planet?

Everyone is a mentor. Sometimes, however, you have no idea of the person or persons are who you are inspiring on a day to day basis. We go through life unaware that we make a difference in the world. Its time that you made a concerted effort to realize how your life brings meaning to others. Contact school counselors, civic, church groups, and governmental agencies to see if you can locate people or groups that need mentoring. Find someone you can help.

Napoleon Hill, in his book Think And Grow Rich, recalls a quote by the motivational speaker, Earl Nightingale. The quote is "The fastest way to reach your goal, is to help someone else, achieve theirs."

Mr. Heffron helped me and a lot of others reach their goals. He was a man of great personal integrity and personal success. By affecting others in such a positive way, he achieved his personal goals and his students achieved theirs. When that someone else respects you for your achievements in the area of academics, sports, music, art, or the medical field, they will accept your suggestions much more readily than from anyone else.

The suggestions you give are called prestige suggestions. Prestige suggestions are accepted as fact by the subconscious mind of your student or mentee. As these suggestions are accepted as fact by the subconscious mind they set up behavior patterns that may affect your student for a lifetime! Parents, teachers, law enforcement officials, movie stars, judges, hypnotists, and medical doctors are just some of the people that offer prestige suggestions in your life. Imagine how effective you will be mentoring an individual who accepts you and your beliefs as readily as the suggestions you receive from the prestige group.

Become a Mentor.

Integrating Goal Achievement with Self-hypnosis

How do you integrate the 5 step goal achievement plan with you self-hypnosis training? Since hypnosis is a goal achieving mechanism in itself, we find that it is rather easy to integrate the process. The best way to learn is by doing. You know deep down how to integrate the two. Offering yourself pre-hypnotic suggestions, creating visualization where you see yourself achieving these goals, and then a suggestion that after your self-hypnotic session, you will begin to work on the five-step program.

Workshop

Activity 1 - Record Your Ideas

Think about the 5-Step Goal Achievement Program. Make a list below of suggestions you can give yourself that will help you integrate the 5-Steps into your everyday life. Note your suggestions that coincide with each step.

1. Bury the Dead

    

    

    

    

    

    

2. Write it Down

    

    

    

    

    

    

3. Create an Image Book or Treasure Map

    

    

    

    

    

    

4. Create and Participate in a Success Support Group

    

    

    

    

    

    

5. Become a Mentor

Activity 2 - Become A Mentor

Think about all of your accomplishments and achievements in your personal life. Begin with your very first memory in life. In the space below, fill in the positive accomplishments as you remember them. No accomplishment is too small or insignificant. You never know how that achievement will be received from others, and how powerful a force it will become in their lives.

After you have completed all of the blanks, think of people you know that you may be able to help based on any of these achievements. If you can't think of specific people, what children's' groups, organizations or associations would benefit by your talents in these areas? List them next to the categories.

Subjects in school

Athletics

Music or Art

Consulting

Job Skills

Hobby Skills

Household Skills

Child Rearing Skills

Negotiating Skills

Careers

Religion and/or Philosophy

Games

Outdoor Skills

Other

Summary

You are rapidly achieving your goals. By integrating the goal achievement techniques you mastered over the last three chapters and integrating them into your success plan, you are developing methods that will help you achieve all of your goals for years to come. Use this book every time you go after a new goal. Make copies of the activities located in the appendix of this book. You will be successful each and every time you execute your success program.

I wish you the best in your success. You have already achieved some of your goals. There is still more in life to do.

Let's achieve some more.

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